Every time I listen to an influential audio or live speaker I think, “Man, you’d make a GREAT therapist.”
Then I think, “But you’d never make this kind of money as a therapist.”
It’s a sad situation I faced a few years ago when I realized that being a traditional therapist just wasn’t going to cut it for me. More hours, crappy pay.
Certainly, there are therapists out there who make great money and enjoy what they do. I just wasn’t one of them. I’m not one to do something if I’m not totally in love with it.
Not all is lost though! My therapy skills are invaluable to me as a coach. My education and my experience have taught me about what kind of coach I want to be and how I want to influence my clients.
I use them all the time as most of them are common sense (to most of us). The one I use the most, is called “flipping the script.”
In therapy talk, it’s called Reframing. It means looking at something with a different perspective with the intention of finding more understanding or to create a more positive outlook on the situation.
REFRAMING: frame or express (words or a concept or plan) differently.
For instance, I used to work with people who were addicted to substances who thought that they would never be able to quit. But after introducing some new ideas and new perspectives on their situations, they did quit and remained sober. And I gotta say it, watching someone get sober is magnificent thing to see. Talk about being emotionally honest!!
Back to reframing.
It’s similar for anyone who is thinking of doing something that scares them.
I had a moment this weekend where I thought, “What am I doing here? This is never going to work. I need to find something else.”
But do you know what that something else would be? It wouldn’t be something that would bring me more joy. It’d be the easy way. The “Scared Kami” way out. It’s my old training kicking in and saying, “Adults are supposed to go to school and then work for 40 years.”
The fact that those thoughts still enter my head are normal; but what I do with them is different now.
When I struggle with negative thoughts, I ask myself these questions:
- Am I struggling with being patient?
- Am I tired? Sad? Don’t feel well?
- Am I feeling not good enough? In fact, in all my years of being a coach/therapist, it’s at the root of most people’s problems. So I flip the script. I do deserve to have the live I want. I do deserve to be happy. I deserve to have an abundance of love, money, and time. I am good enough. And so are you.
If you answered YES then you need to FLIP THE SCRIPT.